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When a narcissist tries to be unselfish it is like an arrow pointing outwards from this center to something else. A self aware attempt at “curing” your narcissism still emphasizes this center. A reverse arrow.

Being unselfish thus is the same as being selfish. They are two sides of the same coin.

Pure or natural action is that which is not tainted by this desire to emphasize self. It is a form of being and flowing. The center “dissolves” because it is always in motion. A river is a “thing” but also cannot be captured. “River” is only the name, not the being.

Selfish and unselfish usually just mean good or bad for society. The terms are not rooted in the concept of self as center but society as center. To be unselfish typically just means to narcissitically sacrifice for society.

Both full narcissism and its opposite, no-self, are ‘bad’ for society because both states don’t need drugs. Society has nothing to offer and thus no method of control.

The offer of “I will be the center of your life.” is no longer fulfilling.

Society is just a recursive stack of these centers. Family, child, partner, career, etc... it’s a center of centers. An amusement park of infinite rides.

Trying to revolve around something else, or getting other things to revolve around you both create false centers. A true center is like a spinning top. Except without mass.