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Meditating has to be consciously chosen over something else. It can't be something to do to pass the time like while on a train or before going to sleep.

This form of meditation is like therapy for your mind as child. (The most fragile but most real version of you). A parent has to *make* time for the child by choosing the child over something else. The child has to be felt as more important than a business meeting.

When you skip an important meeting and just make time to chat and play with your mind the mind feels loved. It isn't as ADD and hyper throughout the rest of the day.

When a child always hears "I'll play with you whenever I have time." the child feels unloved thing and so acts out to be noticed. The love felt is proportional to the importance of the thing sacrificed.

"If you can't meditate in 5 minutes you should meditate for 3 hours" is good advice just like being forced to talk to a therapist for 3 hours up front is necessary to get occasional 5 minute check-ins to be effective.

While meditation is great as personal therapy it often has a hard limitation. Meditation is sought out often as alternative therapy due to a deep sense of shame for needing therapy. That shame prevents meditation from finishing the therapy.

You have to be able to get your mind strong enough to face its shame and admit its weaknesses. Meditation and therapy have to both feel equally appealing.

If trying to get "better" at self-therapy is driven by a strong desire to avoid therapy with another human being, that drive will never actually come up with the right solution. An executive will never present "the best solution for this company is to fire me."