you have to master engagement to get clout, but you have to master disengagement to not subsequently lose it. this is very counterintuitive; like 1% of people make it through stage one and 1% of those then make it to stage 2
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Replying to @visakanv
most people with clout over do disengagement and become functional sociopaths. (This is 100% backed up by the scientific literature. It is not my "opinion".)
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Cites plz

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Replying to @_StevenFan @visakanv
Some cites at bottom. I overstated with 100%, but I stand behind preponderance of evidence. :) "dehumanization and power" will also get you some interesting articles (Google or google scholar).https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/social-empathy/201909/power-blocks-empathy …
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I read this as being about how certain business cultures select for people who can and are willing to use others as objects.
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@visakanv means by disengagement. Maybe he means not responding to little barkers (e.g. low effort reply guys)?1 reply 0 retweets 1 like -
Replying to @_StevenFan @iwelsh
it's not just that – there will be people who try to get inside your head, try to sabotage you, pick fights with you and so on. high-engagement people will feel compelled to respond, because of principles like "never let a challenge go unanswered"
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"never let a challenge go unanswered" is a great principle when there are few challenges around, but past a certain threshold, it becomes a security risk – a way by which other people can hijack your time and attention away from your actual priorities
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Replying to @visakanv @_StevenFan
Back in the 2000s I was an a-list poli-blogger. One principle is to avoid fights unless you want the fight for strategic reasons. Also, by reacting you highlight whatever/whoever it is. It lifts them up, not you, so you have to figure whether it matters/is worth it.
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Attentional asymmetry. Das interesting.
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