Things often spread through poly relationship networks in a way that they can't in monogamous ones. This is often bad (diseases, drama), but it can also be very positive. In particular good relationship skills can spread in poly networks in a way they can't in monogamous ones.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki
Talked to polygamous people who say they can't go back to dating monogamous people because of, my interpretation/paraphrase, the lack of cultured ability to relate.
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Also, lots of unhealthy relating can live in a dyad that could never pass in a triad. The other two partners in a triad can compare notes about interactions and call out bad behavior much more quickly.
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Even with healthy behaviours triads are like this, because there are a lot of things that in a dyad you can pretend don't need a conversation but in a triad they obviously do so you have the conversation you should have had in a dyad too.
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Right, you can unstable equilibrium in a dyad that works as long as you don't go into blow up zones. Triad makes chaotic behavior possible so a lot more variables are exposed as needing tweaking to have stable equilibria! to draw some math analogies
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Yes but also I don't think it's just an equilibrium state thing. I think it's just really obvious in the moment that you don't have enough information in a three way interaction and need to talk about it, in a way that two way interactions don't have.
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makes me think of triangulation in organizational culture management one triad conversation > any number of the three unique pairwise dyad conversations
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