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🌕😈☀️ "Nasty little Buddhist" Seeking via neuroscience and psychology informed dharma.

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    1. CloudPointer‏ @ConceptPointer Jan 9
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      So what do you do when someone says they want help feeling better, but they really just want you to feel their negative emotions with them?

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    2. CloudPointer‏ @ConceptPointer Jan 9
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      Is the correct answer to actually just empathize and get angry/sad/bitter/depressed with them? Spend a few hours trying to improve their mood while they resist? Move on? Honestly don’t know

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    3. Steven Fan‏ @_StevenFan Jan 9
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      As a partner and friend I listen and validate. I don't have to feel what they are feeling or agree with them. I do show that I understand and create space for them to express and feel. No timelines, people heal themselves but grounded vibes and being heard can help it along.

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    4. Steven Fan‏ @_StevenFan Jan 9
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      Clarification: even if I don't agree, I take their side, "I see why you would feel that way, it makes sense."

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    5. CloudPointer‏ @ConceptPointer Jan 9
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      That’s my basic strategy for helping people process their emotions and (hopefully) feel better. Harder than it sounds, but very effective! I think the issue I just experienced is that the other party thought that Understanding implies feeling the same things

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    6. CloudPointer‏ @ConceptPointer Jan 9
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      So, since I wasn’t feeling the same emotions, then I must not understand.

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      I think it's enough to know from previous experience what their pain is about. What it sounds like they wanted is for you to experience things in the same way, dissolving emotional boundaries, but also maybe attacking you for not fusing.

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        2. CloudPointer‏ @ConceptPointer Jan 9
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          That feels quite accurate. Perhaps I’m overly sensitive to the downsides of blending emotionally when those emotions are “bad”. When I resist it probably communicates “You shouldn’t be feeling this way”

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        3. Steven Fan‏ @_StevenFan Jan 9
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          I think the important thing is not feeling compelled to feel. I don't feel safe to feel what I'm feeling if there's an expectation on it. I think requesting different behavior is fine, but it crosses a line to request someone feel differently.

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