How many writers have received emails from white men who say, “I’ve read your article”; “I disagree with it [for x, y, z reasons usually born from misreading]”; and “I am happy to discuss this with you.” Like, YOU’RE “happy to”? How benevolent of you to demand I give you my attn.
or maybe they were shocked that anyone could take the "let's just be friends" sentiment as an actual intent to form a friendship after a chemistry lacking first date.