I do my best parenting when I provide nothing more than a calm, imperturbable presence. A lighthouse or an anchor, not a one-person overwatch system.
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There is tremendous social pressure to perform as overseer, taskmaster and 24 hour bodyguard for the child, but that way lies madness.
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Nonsense to leash your child to your own over-passionate "caregiving", or the cold care of the state. You, a monkey; it, a glorified landlord out for rent money.
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I think a lot about how I can protect my daughter from this idiotic duopoly.
So far, just letting her do her thing without accidentally killing herself seems best.
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It's that last clause that causes the most distorted behaviour, but options here are limited.