Cinder on Twitter: "@iwelsh Literally. Lately, I find I can only answer the question "why did I do that?" when I did something particularly stupid. Intensely weird." / Twitter

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Ian Welsh

@iwelsh

Jan 3, 2018

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@fullnihilism

Today I decided, in a firm way, to never be complicit in my victimhood again. I may be a victim again, I don't always have the power, Most of this comes from childhood patterns with stronger adults who said they loved me.

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learned I had no choice, because after all I was tiny and dependent. And that pattern got burned in. YMMV, of course.

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Thanks for all your guidance with that, btw. My own patterns are all fading out as well. Don't know that I'd get it anytime soon on my own.

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stuff is generally easier to see in others than in oneself. What other people should do is usually obvious, and far more often correct than incorrect.

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