but then, because that story worked so well, they get stuck there, and can't drop it when it's done its work (or carry it lightly)
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people generally have to hit some form of bottom b4 they'll let go of a major story. I was going to die if I didn't change, & I knew it.
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and, while not afraid of death, I was unwilling to die. So, something had to go. I also had years of meditation behind me.
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the Guru (obey all orders) shit, much as it is often abused, exists for a reason: it works & it lets people change stories (and more)
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people hate cults who cut people off from family & friends, but it's also how Sadhu, Sannyasin, monks, hermits work.
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Changing the reality you live in (your stories + identity) is really goddamn hard, and if others are reinforcing it, near impossible.
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at a lesser level, this is 1 reason why people leave families and friends and the place they grow up, to be able to be someone else.
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I don't know one person who is awakened who did not have some literally unbearable problem they didn't have to fix.
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I'm not saying such folks don't exist (probably plenty of monastics), but I haven't met them.
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- I thought this was normal but I'm actuallly in the "weird" camp."
Can't quite discern which it might be. Too much new information.

