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When we try to use a heuristic to explain discrete situations instead of to steer habits & responses, they break down. It's not their job.

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Having a story about yourself, there's nothing more tempting than to explain -everything- with recourse to the story you're telling.

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So that's fine, you can have your story about yourself. You'll get a lot of stuff wrong, but you can at least make effective decisions.

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But then, when the circumstances change, we sometimes hold on to the story past its usefulness. We cling to it, cleave to it, choke it.

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I worry that people are so caught up in telling their story that, when you get into it, understand it (as well as you can) and -see- it,-

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- it is insufficient help (even when help is explicitly asked for, as in

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's case), because you can't really change the story.

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I have the ability to understand people's stories - at least the people I'm talking about confirmed that I was *there*, in their cases.

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But I feel like there's so many things about helping peole heal that I have 0 idea how to do right, when I face these invincible stories.

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I suspect it's a flaw in my method, something about understanding people that I'm not understanding. But it feels like people are... stuck.

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changing one major storyline can completely alter a person's life. It's one reason people get stuck after the 1st storyline

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I've... done that twice in the past 5 years. This explains a lot when you put it like that.

7:44 AM · Aug 29, 2017Twitter Web Client