If anything, often our continued tolerance of bad circumstances is caused by suffering, rather than the cause of it.
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Holding on to things that should not be, without making necessary adjustments, in equal parts arises from and perpetuates fear of change.
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Once that fear starts breaking down, so too does the compulsion to keep your life running in the same direction. It doesn't feel necessary.
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In the West in particular, we have a broad fear of these phenomena, because the self-as-mind/personality/body myth is firmly enthroned.
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In your own practice, you are likely to detect this fear long before you will be able to let go of it.
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I spent years dealing with this problem. It completely halted my practice. It's only now, thanks to much experience & a good teacher...
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... that I'm finally starting to reach the point where it becomes irrelevant.
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Personally, I've always had a big problem with pride. I am too keen to do things my way, to not seek help. It's a long story.
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But if you are coming up against this problem, if your practice feels both stalled and debilitating... consider asking for advice. It helps.
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Western (global?) parenting standards are really poor, and many of us are left with a very poor view of role models (so-called or real).
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But there is a huge difference between soliciting the help of people you are free to ignore at your leisure, but want help from...
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... and having it shoved down your throat by unwelcome hands. This is a difference many of us have trouble respecting (I'm raising my hand).
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There are many great teachers out there, and even a bad teacher will teach you something by the flaws in their method. Keep an open mind.