But when you look closely at *why* this happens, you start to see that it's because things were not as they should be. Things were bad.
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And your perception of the circumstances simply reaches a threshold where the practical dimension of things becomes intolerable to maintain.
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This doesn't always happen, but any kind of insight or morality training (to use buddhist terms, but use the terms you want) will make it so
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Suffering only describes an attitude towards phenomena in your life. Not suffering doesn't mean tolerating all circumstances equally.
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If anything, often our continued tolerance of bad circumstances is caused by suffering, rather than the cause of it.
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Holding on to things that should not be, without making necessary adjustments, in equal parts arises from and perpetuates fear of change.
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Once that fear starts breaking down, so too does the compulsion to keep your life running in the same direction. It doesn't feel necessary.
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In the West in particular, we have a broad fear of these phenomena, because the self-as-mind/personality/body myth is firmly enthroned.
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In your own practice, you are likely to detect this fear long before you will be able to let go of it.
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I spent years dealing with this problem. It completely halted my practice. It's only now, thanks to much experience & a good teacher...
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... that I'm finally starting to reach the point where it becomes irrelevant.
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Personally, I've always had a big problem with pride. I am too keen to do things my way, to not seek help. It's a long story.
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But if you are coming up against this problem, if your practice feels both stalled and debilitating... consider asking for advice. It helps.
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