Okay, better put: freedom from something inherent to you is meaningless, freedom from something you cling to is volitional and arbitrary.
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Either way, it's a pointless exercise in angst to worry about what you feel and desire. Act differently or don't. That's all there is to it.
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unfortunately, worrying about what you feel or desire is also a feeling, and willpower alone won't stop unpleasant feelings.