Conversely, she seems to lose her way sometimes and finds some added clarity to be helpful.
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like "99% of the things you are making drama out of aren't problems if you don't make them problems. Jaysus."
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The dynamic easily gets toxic when there's a lot of stress involved, but when it works it works incredibly well.
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it's fine as long as you're both pointed in the same general direction. Might be problematic if you start not being.
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I don't think there's a relationship today (in the west at least) that works if you can't say "fuck off, me time now" in a nice way.
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mmmm, I don't know. But I think it's wise to leave some space, yes. Partner love is wonderful, but it's generally transactional.
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Also a problem of patience. You're not designed to be responsive to another person every hour of the day. Wears down willpower.
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one of the best signs of a good relationship to me is someone I can be with without either of us requiring anything
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Agreed, but our kid puts a wrench in that. High need baby with capital H. Polish culture is also remarkably toxic to parents.
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yeah, in theory you can do it as a householder, but it is just harder. And kids are lashing to the wheel, not spouses.
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Funnily enough I have an inverse discipline problem I haven't been able to understand the source of. I get bored w/easier paths.
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Mmmm, something subtly wrong there with motivation or intellect. Not sure...
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I suspect both. I have tremendous capabilities in some areas, but feel stunted in other, logically connected areas. No reason.