"Failed" can mean any number of things, but generally I mean someone who either abused their kid, neglected them or ran away.
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Parenting has always been a shit job, and people in all probability have been shit at it since before the dawn of history.
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But it's already markedly worse than when I was a kid. Financial prospects are down, culture is increasingly hostile to free children.
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In many places, e.g. Poland and the United States, there are areas you risk criminal prosecution for letting a child run around unattended.
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By creating such a complex web of debts, financial and social, from public school systems to financing for parents (cuz it's too expensive)-
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We are injecting so much stress and pathology into the situation that our newest generation of children will in all probability be fucked up
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Narcissistic, anxious, depressed or in other ways "not adaptive". (Read: actually well-adapted to a fucked up situation)
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I thought my parents did a good job with me, but I'm starting to wonder if I don't just happen to have a fairly resilient personality.
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A lot of people my age are stuck in deeply pathological behavioral patterns because of things their parents "instilled" uncritically.
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It takes a huge amount of introspection and, more importantly, actual functional emotional work, to sort shit like that out.
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Therapy tends to make this worse, not better. There are good therapists and good systems, but most get it hilariously wrong.
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And the premise is often based on the notion that you can reliably get people to behave in ways our culture deems appropriate (untrue).
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