So to recap: we treat children as mini-adults and punish and reward them at turns for their behavior, then treat actual mini-adults as kids.
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Biologically, most teenagers can already have babies. They sure as shit shouldn't, but our perspectives on teens need to reflect that fact.
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Also biologically, most kids are utterly incapable of regulating their behavior in "appropriate" ways without learning (dangerous) rules.
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Rules such as "always listen to your elders no matter what." Even then, it's a crapshoot.
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There isn't anything inherently wrong with teaching kids appropriate behavior. At some point you have no choice. The problem is expectation.
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By expecting different things from people of every age than what they are realistically in tune with, over-and-underestimating, we create...
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... utterly fucking confused young adults, who are in many ways still children. The casualty rates are also staggering.
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The modern pandemic of personality disorders & other psychological issues isn't just bad nutrition and "modern society" (whatever that is).
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A staggering amount of these diseases originate in bad parenting & other social problems.
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It would be unfair to blame the parents 100%, but I don't know a single person with a disorder who doesn't have at least one failed parent.
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"Failed" can mean any number of things, but generally I mean someone who either abused their kid, neglected them or ran away.
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Parenting has always been a shit job, and people in all probability have been shit at it since before the dawn of history.
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But it's already markedly worse than when I was a kid. Financial prospects are down, culture is increasingly hostile to free children.
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