A vast amount of our problems with children comes from the idea that there is such a thing as a well-behaved child.
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Bluntly stated, a child behaving to any degree naturally is a selfish piece of shit parasite designed to force you to feed it and protect it
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Instead of treating this as a natural by-product of evolution that is -not the child's fault-, we've created the fiction of good behaviour.
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As a species we suck at behaving appropriately anyway, but for a child it is functionally impossible without internalizing misc. pathology.
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So to recap: we treat children as mini-adults and punish and reward them at turns for their behavior, then treat actual mini-adults as kids.
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Biologically, most teenagers can already have babies. They sure as shit shouldn't, but our perspectives on teens need to reflect that fact.
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Also biologically, most kids are utterly incapable of regulating their behavior in "appropriate" ways without learning (dangerous) rules.
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Rules such as "always listen to your elders no matter what." Even then, it's a crapshoot.
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There isn't anything inherently wrong with teaching kids appropriate behavior. At some point you have no choice. The problem is expectation.
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By expecting different things from people of every age than what they are realistically in tune with, over-and-underestimating, we create...
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... utterly fucking confused young adults, who are in many ways still children. The casualty rates are also staggering.
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The modern pandemic of personality disorders & other psychological issues isn't just bad nutrition and "modern society" (whatever that is).
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A staggering amount of these diseases originate in bad parenting & other social problems.
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