The younger you are, as well, the less your system has been tested for resiliency or confidence. Every bad occurence is deeply harrowing.
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This in large part is a result of our culture being completely broken on the subject of young people, parenting and so on.
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There is a mass delusion that personal liberty and responsibility but low stability and support somehow breeds independent, effectual people
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The truth is it does precisely the opposite. It breaks kids and makes them adults prematurely, but for the rest it just drags growth down.
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One of the most stunning side-effects of becoming a parent is having to look carefully at what people are thinking and doing around kids.
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I can tell you for a fact that most people in most western countries completely lost the plot on this topic decades ago.
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The science is shit, the practices are shit, the culture is shit, and the alternatives are all flimsy and based on selling parenting books.
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My wife is obsessed with alternative ways of parenting due to her own parents and culture letting her down in every way imaginable.
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I am also coming around to realizing how many of my own developmental difficulties were the result of abject parento-cultural failures.
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Here's a fact: when kids reach sexual maturity and are coming around to developing their independence, we keep them leashed as supplicants.
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This condition is popularly known as teenage. It is completely artificial and poisonous to personal development and maturity.
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To the best of my knowledge, this is based on the (correct) idea that teenagers are not fully mentally developed, from which follows...
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... the incorrect premise that they need to be taught how to act. This is exactly what they need to learn themselves, but society resists.
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