At times I've wanted to become Really Extraverted by Working Through Trauma Stuff
Currently, though, I'm more like: it's okay if it's awkward sometimes; it's okay if we don't know what to say; it's okay if it could be more fun. It's all okay with me, what about you?
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I wonder sometimes how many people feel this way.
Especially in Meditation Land, I get the sense everyone wants "More, more, more" all the time, and I have to say ... I'm not sure I want to play that game anymore
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Feel like this is a holdover from the whole rationalist culture that's bled into this bizarre overlapping lattice of "postrats".
Life optimization is mostly a bullshit game for bullshit people. Life doesn't have deterministic utility, and it's a soulless way to view things.
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Yeah I think you're right! There's a rationalist ethos that stuck around for the post- part
I wonder how many people aren't sure if they can opt out. I feel unsure of it myself - will I be able to support myself, enjoy life, get married, &c. if I stop
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In a pith phrase: "Stop optimizing so hard"
There's probably a lot of specific details within that that might be hard to explain. I think for me personally the optimization ethos got way down into extremely low-level habits of perception, expression, &c.
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It's kind of unanswerable as formulated, to be fair. I'm exploring here
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