Suspecting that most therapists are only useful inasmuch as they have good intuitive reads on people and (importantly) LIKE you w/o too much sentimentality.
There are lots of other approaches to therapy, and perhaps some of them are also good, but very many are harmful/useless.
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Lots of problems brought into therapy basically boil down to having poor insight on self/acceptance of self, which can be improved by recognition & acceptance.
Therapist going "you seem to be about X (and that's probably fine)" clears a lot of personal noise from the signal.
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The latter had a much more aesthetic approach, sort of staring at a painting and asking "which colours would you like to wear?"
This is freeing, without buying into any sort of narrative about what was going on, rather focusing on the metanarrative.
"Is this important? Why?"
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Getting down into the meat of what makes people tick and why that might be is, ironically, much more useful than any sort of utilitarian, "how do we correct you towards the baseline?" approach.
It puts agency with the person, not in an assumption of what society wants from them.
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