There are healthy forms of self-control and then no shortage of ways we've been taught to block ourselves up and cause problems.
Sometimes it can take a while to understand which is which.
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A lot of problems simply go away if you stop finding them interesting (i.e. stop "controlling yourself").
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And then there are those problems which are relational, a mismatch between you and environment, that may never go away unless dealt with.
It is very easy to conflate these.