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Cinder
@Triquetrea
Thinking about this. This kind of cowardice is normal amongst young men, but why? I think the answer is at least partially in the fact that masculine role models are almost totally gone as a phenomenon.
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Visa’s Vexing Vacillations
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Insecurity. Scared little boys whose sense of meaning and self-respect is obsessively tied up with their “ability” to control the behavior of women (using threats, violence). Possessiveness is a form of cowardice twitter.com/sharanvkaur/st…
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Cinder
@Triquetrea
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@Triquetrea
We teach boys to fight, to get mad, and often we also punish them for these behaviors, often very harshly & violently, "boys will be boys" notwithstanding. If on the other hand, boys express softer, less aggressive emotions, this is absurdly treated as cowardice or weakness.
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Cinder
@Triquetrea
Then, when they are emotionally malformed, still cognitively half-baked and filled with confusion and suppressed emotion, we send them to war. Whether in the workplace, uni or the battlefield, the casualties are enormous. And plenty drop out even before that, often permanently.
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imj
@stillfewer
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But consider the role models that actually exist in the most popular story telling medium today, cinema. It's all Bros who save the world and get the girl. Why? Cos he's him and she... could be anybody. She has no agency no taste no choice - powerless to his irrisistible charm
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Brian Duffy
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girls are terrifying when you’re a teenage boy. kissing/touching a girl becomes your reason for existing. each failure brings pure agony. you watch other boys succeed with seemingly no effort. you finally succeed. you’re still convinced you don’t deserve it. you become possessive