Same here. My current therapist is excellent & makes significant contributions/facilitates growth. Really happy to have him.
My old, old therapist was mostly fond of sharing his own life stories and odd, non-constructive criticism. If I had had a diagnosis, probably even worse.
Someone on the twitter was saying yesterday that it's natural to think of a therapist as a friend
and sometimes that's what people need, just a listening ear
but for others of us
we have some *serious shit* to work through
that you'd never go in to with a friend
I think this is where I went wrong?
https://twitter.com/CountJ0ecool/status/1288496805861367809…
Because I couldn't treat my therapist *as a therapist*
But I still don't think therapy is "for me", because
why aren't they aware of this pattern?!
I have met several pleasant therapists who have done nothing to actually help me
Not saying it's impossible to get value, but for me it was a waste of time+energy, when I had very little of those resources to spare.
Also DSM-style disorder-focus is a whole Thing that I'm getting increasingly disillusioned with / angry about.
What if this is the way that my brain works, and I DON'T want it "fixed"
Supposedly, the main diagnostic criterion is "it causes you suffering". I agree diagnoses shouldn't be pushed on you in therapy. Maybe loosely offered as areas to explore, but...
I think the truism that personality disorders can't be treated comes from "treatment" being forced.
I would also say that it's a bit of a messy problem area, since we tacitly acknowledge that people can have problems they're not aware of.
Yet it takes several intermediary steps or blind faith to suggest that a therapist is *better* qualified to identify your problems for you.
With psychiatric drugs, it seems perverse to me that massive iatrogenic harm is tolerated, while recreational drug use is prosecuted.
And these treatments can be FORCED on people???
"It's OK if pharmaceuticals earn huge money giving you brain damage, but no fun allowed!"