Same here. My current therapist is excellent & makes significant contributions/facilitates growth. Really happy to have him.
My old, old therapist was mostly fond of sharing his own life stories and odd, non-constructive criticism. If I had had a diagnosis, probably even worse.
Someone on the twitter was saying yesterday that it's natural to think of a therapist as a friend
and sometimes that's what people need, just a listening ear
but for others of us
we have some *serious shit* to work through
that you'd never go in to with a friend
I think this is where I went wrong?
https://twitter.com/CountJ0ecool/status/1288496805861367809…
Because I couldn't treat my therapist *as a therapist*
But I still don't think therapy is "for me", because
why aren't they aware of this pattern?!
I have met several pleasant therapists who have done nothing to actually help me
Not saying it's impossible to get value, but for me it was a waste of time+energy, when I had very little of those resources to spare.