anybody who thinks twitter needs a dating feature is probably not going to be very successful on it even if it had one
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your issue isn't that you lack a dating app, your issue is more likely...
1. you don't conduct yourself in a way that makes people want to be around you
2. you don't know how to flirt appropriately
3. you don't enjoy your own company
4. you don't know what you're looking for
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What do you think you should do when you are very good both at conducting yourself in a way that makes people want to be around you AND in a way that makes them want to run away really, really fast, BUT you're not great at controlling which is active & when?
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Meet lots of people, and date the ones who don’t run away. (Ideally those who stand their ground from a place of courage and cool confidence, not fear / people-pleasing impulses)
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IMO you have 3 overlapping options
1. Try to develop rigorous internal control throughout- hardest to do, best outcomes if done well. Long game
2. Try to contain intensity to contexts/people who can tolerate it
3. Accept the tradeoff that you’ll always weird some people out
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I agree with all 3 to some extent.
My situation is more or less an overcorrection after taking 1 a bit too far, into the realm of being emotionally neutered.
This led to being taken advantage of and having poor acuity on what I want.
Now trying 1 with more self-awareness.
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But likewise my intuition is that I'm so far off the right of the emotional intensity bell curve that in some measure, options 2 and 3 will always have to be entertained unless I mellow out with age.