If the driving force of your online expression is “everyone is a narcissist except me” the call might be coming from inside the gravitational black hole of your own narcissistic wound
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Favourite version of this at the moment is all the Gen X-er memes about helpless Gen X being squished by narcissistic boomers and millennials.
I mean, sure, the population has been trending more narcissistic for decades but surely it must have skipped a generation...
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Fun to tell people about this idea because everyone knows some private, quiet individual who’s the biggest narcissist in their circle
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talking with wife about the different kinds of narcissism & had an odd thought: sometimes it can be “more narcissistic” to be private than public, in the sense that one might want to protect one’s self-image from scrutiny
Narcissism is a convoluted concept, needs disambiguating
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Vulnerable narcissism, yes. My favourite.
Public perceptions of narcissism are mostly so far off kilter that they're not even worth bothering with.
We have seriously confused (and ironically narcissistic - as in self-absorbed, low empathy) notions of what NPD is like.
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Some people do like orbiting narcissists - drama and excitement to feed off of. Hang out with musicians and groupies and it becomes super apparent
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Oh yeah, the art world is clearly an exception to that general trend.
Have you seen Velvet Buzzsaw? I loved how that was treated there.
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My last therapist was very careful when introducing these concepts to ask me to never use them to label a person but to use them to understand dynamics between myself and people
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I'm not sure I believe personality disorders exist, in the APA-led sense of the word.
But I do think you can be so far stuck in defense mechanisms that it becomes a compulsive, torturous pattern.
I don't think we are doing anyone any favors by essentializing that to the person.