my latest riff on a familiar topic:
most people get invested in getting good at playing whatever game they're currently playing, and this actually *keeps them in place*
in a way, we often prioritize gilding our cages over breaking out of them
and it makes sense why we do it
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there are degrees & exceptions to this, but the feeling I'm getting is...
to *seriously* pursue something is to be *nomadic* in a very fundamental sense. significantly, it means that YOU will change, & your relationships with others will change
this is too exhausting for most
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the CEO of Shopify, , had an interesting adjacent riff on this in a 2013 talk. Shopify had about maybe 50,000 users then? Today they have over 800,000 users, and their stock has 10x'd since they IPO'd. I think he knows what he's talking about
visakanv.com/marketing/tobi/
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a recurring frustration is repeatedly finding out that people who *claim* they want to get out of their current box don't actually mean it. their behavior and inaction indicates that they are content to be wannabes. they're either liars or cowards or both
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P: in fact, saying “if only I could be like X” is an excuse to not change. Like my wannabe-novelist friend, who wants to be a wannabe-novelist full of excuses, not a novelist who struggles and faces rejection
Y: wow, big mood
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[Alright I think we're back in business.]
some past riffs on this:
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an additional confounding factor:
not only do most people not have any real creative vision or ambition...
many people entertain themselves by PRETENDING that they do
most people want their lives to be sitcoms that pretend to be adventures
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one of the comical things about life is that many people will often put in a *lot* of effort into this
running from your fears is something you have to do constantly, facing them head on is technically far less effort (but it's scary, so.)
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play-actors sometimes put in more effort into play-acting than players put into playing
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reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away
and yet, we all expend a surprising amount of effort holding on to our beliefs, our expectations, even when they're wrong
seeing the humor in this is IMO the first step to letting go
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Conversation with wife: an existential crisis is really a sort of expectation crisis- it’s the horror of falling from the height of your expectations, down to the reality you actually already inhabit. It’s interesting to consider that staying up takes more effort than coming down
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