they're not necessarily the same thing. You can give a problem to God (whoever/whatever that is) and feel it's dealt with, if you have enough faith. Otherwise, detachment is the key.
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get used to looking at feelings in the body and that they aren't you. Meditate on feelings in the body. Are they you?
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the core is realizing that fear is just a sense object, not your and not important. It's not the easiest thing, but when you get it, it's an "aha!"
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I don't feel like this is very great for handling "live" traumas.
This is the sort of insight that helps break the cycle of forming new ones, by depersonalizing what's already there.
It doesn't help much when your life is going to pieces. Calming w/o resorting to insight does.
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Insight practice really dials up the intensity of what's there when you're triggered. I found it very destabilising when I was having rage fits.
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interesting. I found it useful, but I may be the minority. What worked for you?
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I read a bunch of books on trauma and (still need to re-read to deepen this understanding) came back with the impression that the key is that feelings get stuck somatically. Need to be released.
The 3rd Cutting Machinery step is very close to somatic experiencing therapy.
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The key:
Calm and detachment needs to be cultivated. Breathing techniques, mantras, or whatever.
Then the feelings need to be elicited. A therapist or a deep insight practice helps here.
Finally, they need to be felt, and potentially reacted to (trembling, crying, tensing...)
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So I felt this tension I hadn't realized I was holding in start releasing. And with it, pure horror.
Memories of the news breaking. Moments where I'd been unable or unwilling to give them enough space.
I felt this terribly intense urge to cry.
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Simultaneously, training sets in. Tells me these feelings need to be released into, not fled from.
I let go and just go completely nonverbal for several minutes, crying and shaking. Grandma, wise and considerate, lets me have the moment.
Deep release follows. Cut strings.
After this I figured out this could be done at a fairly technical level - release into the feeling, let it go. Afterwards, it's *gone*, at least that part.
In this case it was total. I just accepted the fact they're sick and may die any time. Which was always true on some level.
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You arrive at a sort of detached acceptance this way, too, but it goes through fundamental acceptance of feelings, rather than bypassing.
I think ultimately this results in healthier practitioners, but safety becomes a greater concern. I was lucky to have my grandmother around.
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