Yeah, the "small" traumas are often the most destructive. Bigger traumatic events tend to get siloed, have limited emotional ties.
Anything that happens in early childhood or as part of an ongoing family dynamic, though, will affect huge chunks of your emotional being.
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Probably not giving big traumas enough credit there, but point is even relatively benign family problems can snowball into big blockages.
And when those go, or even just get triggered, there's a lot that can go with them in the flood.
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I definitely sense this but haven't had a lot of success in removing the logs.
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Option 1 (superior, IMO): trauma-informed therapy like somatic experiencing, EMDR etc. - this is basically doing the emotional processing step with professional help.
Option 2: when stuff comes up during open awareness, or can't be handled during processing, go back to mantras.
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The thing is, getting exposed to trauma triggers without sufficient calm is no joke. Big chance of just retraumatizing yourself. Mantra calms.
(This is also why treatment like CBT sucks for trauma - it brings up the triggers, but talking is not sufficiently calming in itself.)
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a profound feeling of "it doesn't matter/it's dealt with" is necessary to end the a trauma. Nothing will go away till you don't care. Getting to an emotional state where you don't care is the trick, but possible.
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they're not necessarily the same thing. You can give a problem to God (whoever/whatever that is) and feel it's dealt with, if you have enough faith. Otherwise, detachment is the key.
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get used to looking at feelings in the body and that they aren't you. Meditate on feelings in the body. Are they you?
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the core is realizing that fear is just a sense object, not your and not important. It's not the easiest thing, but when you get it, it's an "aha!"
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I don't feel like this is very great for handling "live" traumas.
This is the sort of insight that helps break the cycle of forming new ones, by depersonalizing what's already there.
It doesn't help much when your life is going to pieces. Calming w/o resorting to insight does.
Insight practice really dials up the intensity of what's there when you're triggered. I found it very destabilising when I was having rage fits.
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interesting. I found it useful, but I may be the minority. What worked for you?
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