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A simple summary (b/c time): - praise: they attribute their successes to their own efforts, and undervalue context dependant variables. - blame: they attribute others' failures to their lack of effort, motivation, etc; and undervalue why those failures occurred in context.
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what this looks like in practice is that the causes & conditions which shape the 'emergent' outcome of any set of responses become hidden; because of fake attribution. IME, people who take free-will as a key belief cease to look for leverage points where they can optimise.
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Eg: I know a CEO of a recruitment firm. He was very good at what he used to do, but now he’s at the top he complains about his young employees not taking initiative; instead of looking for things he can change, he complains about them not trying hard enough.
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When I pushed back on this and asked him questions, I was amazed by just how entrenched in his view he was. He was unwilling to consider ways of coaxing his employees in his desired direction, because according his worldview they were just choosing to not put in the effort.
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Speaking from personal experience working at a firm like that, you can have all those beliefs and retain some modicum of self-awareness. You just slingshot "didn't want to put the work in" up a level to include your own outcomes w/employees... which is the logical thing to do.
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It sounds more like your guy is excusing himself by *not* fully committing to his belief system. The main issue with that system is it optimizes for callousness, even towards yourself. Workaholicism, substance abuse, sexual abuse...
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