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Btw, I see a lot of arguing that this has something to do with "Western", "individualistic" culture. I think that's BS. If anything, it's a post-agricultural issue.

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Cinder

@Triquetrea

Oct 11, 2018

Most trauma isn't beyond healing, I don't think. But, and especially with really early childhood trauma, an entire personality structure can be built around the pain. Once these become inextricable, every step towards healing can cause an identity crisis. Very challenging.

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Cinder

@Triquetrea

Oct 11, 2018

Cultures with weaker family ties often leave you alienated and alone to deal with trauma. Bad. Cultures with strong families, however, often rub your nose in your abusers and demand you respect them. Better?

Cinder

@Triquetrea

"Look, we know your uncle is a creep and we know you said he was trying to molest you, but YOU WILL GO TO THIS DINNER AND YOU WILL NOT MAKE A SCENE." - Fairly typical example of Poland's "family-oriented" style of interaction.

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Vs. Norway where any mention of trauma will often precipitate some nervous laughter and a quick change of topics.