major pitfall for “spiritual” types: the delusion that everybody should take one as seriously as one takes oneself.
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The number of ways in which trauma and spirituality are conflated is probably a result of trauma pushing people to spirituality to cope.
Curious: what do you mean by "won't own their own pain"? I feel I'm seeing this play out in some people, but not sure if it's the same thing.
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Right. So what you are talking about *in general* is the tendency people have to Other their pain when they have unresolved or ongoing trauma?
This prompting unhelpful "help" for others, lack of regard for those people's feelings (because they're putting their own there) etc.?
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That's fair. I'm only speaking to my own experience, on both sides of that problem.
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Yeah, I just meant I see your point.
I am struggling with that sublimation constantly. I was raised in a very toxic way, and it's not always easy to notice the rot. Still, I find that actively working on it does *help*, even if it doesn't ever quite fix things.
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(Though to be fair I'm only in my mid-20s and only really started accepting the full extent of the damage a few years ago, so maybe a bit early for a prognosis.)