Sometimes I wonder if my emotional reactivity is pathologically low.
But maybe it's actually, uh, normal.
It's difficult to say, given how all over the place in terms of mental health people are.
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If it's important to you, learn to put it under conscious control. It's hard work, but it can be done to a remarkable degree (no, I haven't done most of it, but I can see how it's done.)
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I have already started, but it's very hard work. I have to remind myself that being angry is OK in response to injustice, then I have to actually calibrate that anger, not make it a habit, etc. etc.
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look instead at how it feels, how it makes you act and whether or not you like it or find it useful.
The breakthrough comes, in my experience, when you get a decent awakening that "this is hurting me and doing no good."
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anger had two advantages. It gives you a shot of energy, and (sometimes, if accurately calibrated) it tells you when something is unacceptable or harmful.
Are there other, better, ways to do those two things?
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