Marianne KirbyOvjeren akaunt

@TheRotund

Real Live Author and Fat Person Around Town (and the Internet). My aesthetic is hopepunk melodrama and my pronouns are she/her.

Alexandria, VA
Vrijeme pridruživanja: svibanj 2007.

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  1. Prikvačeni tweet

    A friend posted "How do I stop body-shaming myself?" This is something I've worked and written about for years, y'all all get a thread, especially since it is February - which means we are past a lot of the January "new year, new you" bs. This is prime time for fat/body pos time.

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  2. I wanted to come back to this because, yes, it IS hard to unlearn this! But your body doesn't require justification. Some of us have been groomed to believe our very existence is an imposition. That is a lie. You don't have to justify your body to anyone.

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  3. I cannot even tell you how excited I am about this. And also I am already planning an outfit.

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    I dunno who needs this today but here’s a really great thread about steps to loving & accepting our bodies

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    Look at this beautiful book cover. My tough Apache nerd, the hero of Elatsoe, has a face. is incredible. She created this cover art and illustrated *every* chapter in Elatsoe. Her work is so haunting and perfect; I can't wait for you to see it!

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  6. PS. Do you have a question about body liberation/fat politics? I'm not always available but I can often talk and/or point folks at resources. Please feel free to tweet at me while understanding I may not see it (Twitter is wild) but I try to be present.

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  7. I just want to emphasize this outside of this thread, too. Like, feeling better about your body by favorably comparing it to other bodies is a shitty thing to do, undermines your relationship with your body, and props up body facism. Don't do it.

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  8. There's just you - and everyone else who is doing this work - enacting a personal body revolution. Welcome to it.

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  9. 6. Just remember that this is a process. Odds are good you've internalized a lifetime of body loathing messages. Those aren't going to stop. So you're going to make progress and then slip back and you'll have good days and bad days. There is no magic fix and no end state.

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  10. THE PATH TO BODY LIBERATION IS NOT PAVED WITH ABLEISM.

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  11. 5. Do not fall for the trap of devaluing your physical being/thinking bodies don't matter - but also don't use ableism as a means of self-soothing. Your physical accomplishments don't give your body more worth or virtue than a body that is not strong.

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  12. 5. Following that, engage with your body in a positive and pleasurable way. Yes, that means everything you think it means. But it also means whatever is positive and pleasurable for YOU.

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  13. 4. If the things you think about your body would horrify you coming from a person you love, acknowledge that red flag and replace those thoughts via point 1. Do the nice things for your body that you would suggest to a loved one in need of care. This is hard to remember.

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  14. The bodies you surround yourself with are the bodies that are normalized for you. It sucks, but if you only ever see women who look like Hollywood starlets get held up as ideal, then that is what your brain thinks is the ideal. Find a new normal.

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  15. 3. Consciously work to diversify the images of bodies around you and lay off the mainstream Hollywood media that presents such a narrow range of bodies as acceptable. Yes, that means no fashion mags/limiting movies and tv. People hate this one.

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  16. From a feminist perspective, I find this strategy very compelling because the physical space we occupy is often metaphorically tied to the power and control we are able to exert over ourselves and our space (see: manspreading).

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  17. You can also give yourself permission to take up space and not look like whatever you are thinking you should look like. "I am occupying the space that rightfully belongs to me and I won't let anyone deny me this space, including myself."

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  18. The key is that you are recognizing a self-harming behavior and immediately replacing it with something else. You can pay yourself a compliment (damn, my lipstick looks good) or just affirm that your body exists (yep, that's my body).

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  19. This doesn't mean you have to look at yourself and be all "I'm a GODDESS." Like, that works for some folks and I'm glad for them, but I'm not that person, thanks. If you are not either, you might try by thinking something neutral about your body instead.

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  20. 2. After you make the choice, you figure out your strategy. Yes, this is most effective when it's a conscious thing. It is easiest to change the negative self-talk habit by replacing your negative body thoughts with something else; stopping cold turkey is hard in every situation.

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  21. Capitalism likes it when we hate ourselves; self-loathing is profitable. That's why there are built in social punishments for making this decision - but not hating yourself/not tearing yourself down is worth it.

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