A Moogle  🏳️‍🌈 💻 🎮 🎶 🇸🇪

And if you ultimately either can't or won't deal with the pains of learning to integrate - because don't get me remotely wrong, it IS painful, you'll fail and it'll hurt but you'll LEARN - then don't expect society to kowtow to you. Because it's about meeting in the middle.

Frankly I'm sick of all these autism "support" groups telling people, hey, it's okay to not be integrated. Maybe it is, but you don't then get to rail against society for rejecting you. Yeah, learning to integrate sucks. It hurts. So does learning to ride a bike.

Or sticking with mainstream schooling. Or learning programming. Or learning horse riding. Or learning any damn number of things. You won't start out perfect, you'll fall off the bike, you'll have meltdowns, it'll suck, but it's no reason not to TRY, damn it.

And if at the end of the day you decide it's not for you, fine - but if you get to abdicate from integrating into society, society gets to abdicate bowing and scraping to your very highness.

I'm not suggesting that you be able to conjure up coping skills out of pure thin air. That just isn't realistic. But at the same time, if you have *any* resources available to you to learn to cope with society at large, then you owe it to yourself and everyone else to use them.

The presence of a neurological disorder is, and only ever will be, an explanation, not an excuse. And there is a very important distinction between the two: Even with autism you still have personal agency. Bad behavior might have an explanation, but it has no excuse whatsoever.

This kind of bs has no place in my mentions. Especially not as a response to me explaining how that bs nearly killed me. I did that. For 25 years. I nearly died because of it. It. Is. Bullshit. It is now so engrained that I still do it even though I know I have to stop.