Honest question: what’s the “rule” with apologies? Do you owe them even if you strongly feel you’ve done nothing wrong? Like if someone wants one, it often feels like you “better give it or else”.
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Honest answer: As someone who is
#ActuallyAutistic, I can't always tell if an apology is genuine or forced. But if I feel legitimately aggrieved, the apology feels meaningful. Logic and feelings are orthogonal. Why, then, should I not extend the same courtesy to others?
When I take offence, people can take all the time in the world to explain why I shouldn't be offended, but at the end of the day, I am, and an apology helps. As many HR people have told me, it doesn't matter how I intend to be perceived, what matters is how I *am* perceived.