Most men have absolutely no idea how to talk to their wife. Their wife says, “Talk to me!” and he answers, “What am I supposed to say?” Women develop emotional intimacy through talking. Men don’t know how to do this. Here’s a thread on communicating intimately with your wife:
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Women DO NOT want men coming to them for all the answers. A man who’s too afraid to think logically and find a solution is NOT attractive. But women’s brains work relationally. They see patterns and tiny connections the hyper-focused male brain may miss.
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Sharing your weakness with a woman indicates trust. Sharing your feeling about that problem shows her your thought process and helps her relate to you. Asking her feedback on your solution invites her to be USEFUL to you. Being USEFUL makes her feel secure in the relationship.
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If you REFUSE to do this, to share vulnerability and ask for feedback, you are saying to her “I DON’T TRUST YOU, I DON’T TRUST YOUR THINKING, I DON’T NEED YOU, SO I WON’T STAY WITH YOU FOR VERY LONG, I’M LOOKING FOR ANOTHER WOMAN I’LL VALUE MORE.” This kills her sex drive.
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Following the formula above may INCREASE her sex drive as you develop true emotional intimacy with her through trust and respect. She feels valuable and USEFUL and believes she’s secure because you’ll want to keep her for more than just sex. Emotional intimacy is an aphrodisiac.
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If you want stronger marriage and a better sex life, learn to SHARE YOUR PROBLEMS, STATE YOUR FEELING, EXPLAIN YOUR SOLUTION, and ASK FOR FEEDBACK. This is the secret to making your wife feel loved, respected, and USEFUL.
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In reading this thread, I’m led to wonder if the stereotypical going out to eat argument might be a species of the same problem, only writ small...
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For the husband, it’s more about the result. “Let’s eat at X.” For the wife, it’s more about the process of deciding together.
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Is this worth a try if she has broken up because of irritating and unhealthy attachment issues ? Should I still share with her and ask her for her feedback ?
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