Daycare has been shown to harm attachments, especially for babies. Their mental health outcomes later in life are impacted. Saying this out loud can get you fired.
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Depression may serve a very real biological purpose. If you're stuck in a bad situation that's unhealthy for you, for a long time, there is benefit in becoming so miserable that you lose your filter and tear it all apart.
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Most women communicate with men using methods that only work for women. When they don't get the response a woman would give them, they think men are rejecting them. They agonize over what they could have done wrong to be treated this way. Most men have no idea this is happening.
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Most men don't know how female communication works. They provide solutions, which is what THEY would want, when a woman wants VALIDATION. When this is pointed out, most men assume it's untrue. Because they'd hate to receive only validation instead of a solution.
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The female sex drive runs on intimacy. Intimacy depends upon emotional security and attachment strength. Both of these are dependent upon both partners working as a partnership. Even the slightest issue can derail the female sex drive. It's a great litmus test for a relationship
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Most women with attachment issues ramp their sex drive through the roof at the start of a relationship and then nosedive the moment it becomes secure. And they hate themselves for both sides of it.
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I have never met a young woman with sexual trauma who didn't believe it was somehow her fault. Part of this is the need to believe she can prevent it in the future. Admitting it's beyond her power is worse than feeling guilty.
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A woman's sex life can actually be better after she heals from sexual trauma than before the trauma happened. This is entirely dependent upon her taking a proactive and intentional approach to emotional partner engagement, communication, and understanding her natural sex drive.
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Most people with PTSD don't know they have PTSD. And most of them refuse to believe it even when they're shown the diagnostic criteria they just admitted to.
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Most depressed men probably don't need medication. Even then ones who do need it need more than just medication. Depressed men need purpose, a mission, and the power to accomplish that mission. Give a man those 3 things and he can crawl over broken glass with a smile.
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Bad insurance company practices are a big reason most patients won't seek therapy. And a big reason there aren't more practicing therapists to bring the cost down.
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It's okay to be sad. That doesn't mean you're depressed. It's okay to be worried. That doesn't mean you're anxious. It's okay to experience trauma. That doesn't mean you have PTSD. Not everything is a diagnosable issue.
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Most men won't get therapy because most therapy is aimed at helping women heal, not men. Each requires a different method, and even individuals have different needs. Men are not wrong for this. The field is wrong for not providing clearer options for people with different needs.
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Most people are looking for talk therapy but really need solution-focused therapy. Most therapists are trained to never provide solution-focused therapy in order to validate their clients.
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Most couples say they value communication but then run their relationship as if ever mentioning the problems under the surface will destroy the whole thing. "We're only together because we don't mention what's wrong! We can never discuss it!" Imagine running a business this way
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The best couples have business meetings to discuss the state of their relationship. They address problems together with a solution-focused approach and guarantee mutual fulfillment. Because a lasting marriage is more like a business than a fairytale.
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A husband and wife with attachment issues can usually survive until they have kids. Then the wife sees the kids struggling without a healthy bond to their father and begins treating him like a threat to "her kids". He usually has no idea why she's slowly turning on him.
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A damaged man is incapable of love because he does not believe love will be freely given, only earned through works. He seeks false intimacy in lust and mistakes sex for acceptance. These men seek insecure women who believe themselves unlovable and who use sex to earn approval.
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Most young women who experience rape only recover when they accept that the rape was actually nothing personal, because the attacker was incapable of loving attachment and did not view them or anyone else as a human and only as an object. Most are shocked, then relieved.
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Most women are disgusted when they finally learn how the male sex drive works. Then they test to see if it's true, and when it is, they start to like the new power they hold.
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Women are insecure about details. Men don't notice details. Men notice body parts No man ever said, "Hey, one of her nipples is slightly larger than the other" But every woman knows which of her nipples is larger than the other and is terrified her partner will leave her for it
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Most women spend their time worrying about the man they love noticing imperfections that only another woman would ever notice. Few women realize that you cover imperfections by distracting men with accentuated body parts. Flaunt what you've got. He won't care about the rest.
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Too many people reading this thread have no idea what "attachment" means It's the most important thing in a human life, but our society has downplayed it so hard that we don't even teach it anymore Ancient societies made it their main focus because attachment is life itself
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Most people would be better off breaking their phone in half and never touching the internet again Teen depression and suicide rates skyrocketed in 2007 when the first iPhone released But most people will take a pill and binge Netflix instead
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Most anxious women are so preoccupied with worrying what their husband or boyfriend expects that they forget to ask him. Of the few who do think to ask him, most believe he'll be too nice to tell the truth. Those who do ask usually can't believe his answer.
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Insecure men spend so much time trying to please their wife they way they pleased their own mother that they force their wife into a mother role. Then they wonder why she doesn't initiate sex anymore.
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Many insecure women would rather open an OnlyFans account and get validation from strangers than have a brutally honest conversation with the man they love about what he expects. Because strangers just want her body. And most insecure women don't believe they're worth loving.
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I've got a ton of people asking me to define attachment. It's my clinical specialty. Here's an excerpt from one of the books I've written on the subject. There's a section in here titled "What is attachment?"https://adamlanesmith.com/2020/12/02/insecurity-and-attachment/ …
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Most wives in bad marriages who resent their husbands are really angry at the emotional pain their kids endure in the relationship with their father, the husband. Most husbands would be better off fixing things with their kids first. Most husbands will never realize this.
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Most men have absolutely no idea how to talk to their wife. Their wife says, “Talk to me!” and he answers, “What am I supposed to say?” Women develop emotional intimacy through talking. Men don’t know how to do this.
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Women tend to be happiest when they feel USEFUL to the people they love. They also want to feel TRUSTED with inside information about how you’re doing and what your challenges are, again so they can HELP and BE USEFUL. VULNERABILITY indicates huge trust.
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