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70% of divorces are initiated by women, But as a couples therapist, I've never seen even one divorce where the husband didn't have attachment issues.
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Husbands who complain about having zero sex have no idea how the female sex drive actually works.
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Male depression is nearly always a result of learned helplessness, but health providers treat it like female depression and try to make men feel loved instead of powerful.
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If your child is an asshole, it's your fault. Even if it's the other parent's fault, it's your fault for picking them. Take some responsibility.
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If you find your teen cutting and your ongoing plan is to scream at them every time you find out they did it, you'll probably never meet your grandchildren.
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Threatening your drug-abusing teen to make them stop using drugs works about as effectively as threatening a shark to go vegan. The problem isn't the behavior, it's what sort of animal your parenting has turned them into.
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Every divorcing couple I ever treated had at least one partner with an attachment issue. Divorces between two healthy people just don't happen.
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Daycare has been shown to harm attachments, especially for babies. Their mental health outcomes later in life are impacted. Saying this out loud can get you fired.
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Most people don't want to hear the truth. They want to feel good about giving up.
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Most couples entering couples' therapy are there because one has given up and wants an excuse to prove it's not their fault. The other truly believes they can make the relationship work.
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About half of parents who put their teens in therapy want the therapist to fix their kid because they can't be bothered building a healthy relationship with their own child.
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Most people in therapy are there because of the people in their life who actually needed therapy refused to get it.
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Parents willing to put in the work to help their children heal from anxiety and depression are worth their weight in gold. But they're few and far between. Most spend more time selecting their next Netflix show than paying attention to their child's wellbeing.
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Latent anxiety is nearly always the result of attachment issues. But most people with anxiety don't know this because their attachment issues have been with them as long as they can remember, so they don't know any different. And many don't even know they have anxiety.
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People think you only get PTSD from war or rape. It's not true. People think you can get PTSD from not being validated. It's not true.
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For most people, the cycle of mental health looks like this: Attachment issue
Anxiety
Depression
Except for severe cases which often look like this:
Trauma
Attachment issue
Anxiety
Depression
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People are more likely to take a pill for years that they don't understand and don't think will actually help than they are to attempt even one uncomfortable conversation that could save their life.
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Most cases of depression are a natural response to our broken society. We gain much of our sense of worth, purpose, meaning, and joy from our relationships. But those relationships have never been more systematically destroyed than they are today.
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Depression may serve a very real biological purpose. If you're stuck in a bad situation that's unhealthy for you, for a long time, there is benefit in becoming so miserable that you lose your filter and tear it all apart.
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Most women communicate with men using methods that only work for women. When they don't get the response a woman would give them, they think men are rejecting them. They agonize over what they could have done wrong to be treated this way. Most men have no idea this is happening.
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Most men don't know how female communication works. They provide solutions, which is what THEY would want, when a woman wants VALIDATION. When this is pointed out, most men assume it's untrue. Because they'd hate to receive only validation instead of a solution.
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The female sex drive runs on intimacy. Intimacy depends upon emotional security and attachment strength. Both of these are dependent upon both partners working as a partnership. Even the slightest issue can derail the female sex drive. It's a great litmus test for a relationship
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Most women with attachment issues ramp their sex drive through the roof at the start of a relationship and then nosedive the moment it becomes secure. And they hate themselves for both sides of it.
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I have never met a young woman with sexual trauma who didn't believe it was somehow her fault. Part of this is the need to believe she can prevent it in the future. Admitting it's beyond her power is worse than feeling guilty.
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A woman's sex life can actually be better after she heals from sexual trauma than before the trauma happened. This is entirely dependent upon her taking a proactive and intentional approach to emotional partner engagement, communication, and understanding her natural sex drive.
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Most people with PTSD don't know they have PTSD. And most of them refuse to believe it even when they're shown the diagnostic criteria they just admitted to.
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Most depressed men probably don't need medication. Even then ones who do need it need more than just medication. Depressed men need purpose, a mission, and the power to accomplish that mission. Give a man those 3 things and he can crawl over broken glass with a smile.
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Bad insurance company practices are a big reason most patients won't seek therapy. And a big reason there aren't more practicing therapists to bring the cost down.
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It's okay to be sad. That doesn't mean you're depressed. It's okay to be worried. That doesn't mean you're anxious. It's okay to experience trauma. That doesn't mean you have PTSD. Not everything is a diagnosable issue.
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Most men won't get therapy because most therapy is aimed at helping women heal, not men. Each requires a different method, and even individuals have different needs. Men are not wrong for this. The field is wrong for not providing clearer options for people with different needs.
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