Her & the therapist agreed that sharing this info with her husband would have been disastrous for their relationship, given his previous history with a woman who cheated. Trust would have been shattered. She is happily married, a great mom, and a wonderful wife to this day :)
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Replying to @dovidfeldman
Hmmm , interesting. Thanks for sharing perspective. Always appreciate it Dovid!
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Replying to @itsmedevclev @dovidfeldman
In this example, it seems as though her feelings were only internal, & she didn't act on them. I agree, probably better to let it go. But if she acted on them, & betrayed her husband, she would have owed it to him to come clean. I don't believe those things ever stay hidden.
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Replying to @OpheliaMaddsen @dovidfeldman
I’ve heard this argument so many times. Almost always from my fellow marriage counselors. “Keep the truth hidden so others don’t suffer.” So many opportunities for growth and true intimacy are lost. And as a Christian, I really can’t support concealing the truth.
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Replying to @TheBrometheus @dovidfeldman
Which for me goes back to what Ophelia said about having the opportunity for give. I can’t display the unconditional love of Christ & practice forgiveness if my partner keeps their sin hidden. I also believe all sin comes to light & manifests to the surface at some point.pic.twitter.com/t7qE91yoUh
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Replying to @itsmedevclev @dovidfeldman
This is exactly right. If you live in fear that your partner will be hurt and never recover, you aren’t being faithful to God. If you want your marriage to stay together over truth, you aren’t being faithful to God. If you’d rather steal love through lying, you don’t love.
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Replying to @TheBrometheus @dovidfeldman
And all of these things will be reflected in unconscious behaviors as the years drag on. Hiding your secret sin against your partner doesn’t make it have zero effect.
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Replying to @TheBrometheus @dovidfeldman
Absolutely zero disrespect to
@dovidfeldman. I’m popping off here, bro, but not at you. I was taught this exact lie in school by my professors who were also practicing therapists. It’s atheism wrapped up in false compassion as rationale for hiding sin. And I hear it so often.5 replies 0 retweets 8 likes -
Replying to @TheBrometheus @dovidfeldman
I don't agree this has anything to do with atheism. A denial of organized faith does not give an excuse for lying & betrayal. It is possible to hold fundamental principles because they are the only things that make existence bearable.
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I think a lot of people who are in denial of faith/God are still in agreeance with Gods teaching.
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That’s because they bear out in every test.
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