My grandparents worked through an affair during the beginning years. Had my grandma not demonstrated forgiveness & unconditional as well as my grandpa feeling true remorse & asking for forgiveness... they wouldn’t have been married 57 years before he passed & created their life
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Replying to @itsmedevclev
For many couples, an affair (while not excusable) finally forces them to be truly open about their problems and create real emotional intimacy as they rebuild a better marriage, as it should have been in the first place. Those who can’t end up tearing each other apart.
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Replying to @TheBrometheus
Agreed. It’s never excusable behavior. But we are all human & fail to love our partners when we aren’t nurturing our connection. We turn to our personal vices when we aren’t connected to the true vine. If we are, forgiveness comes in & heals. Trials produce strength & endurance.
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Replying to @itsmedevclev @TheBrometheus
Not to be a darkness in this conversation but one thing I have a very hard time forgiving is disloyalty. Loyalty to family was engrained in me from birth. The military and fire department nurtured that belief. Idk honestly how I would handle that situation.
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Replying to @hmestedpadre @TheBrometheus
I don’t know how I would either. I think that is the worst possible decision you could make in a marriage. Would be the hardest to forgive, that’s for sure.
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Replying to @itsmedevclev @TheBrometheus
I've been cheated on by girls in the past, but not my spouse. That was easy to handle, see ya later, dont call me again. But marriage is sacred and it's a covenant between two people and God. That makes it a different thing altogether.
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Replying to @hmestedpadre @TheBrometheus
I agree completely! Although, I don’t think anyone goes into a marriage thinking their spouse will ever cheat on them. I won’t marry if that deep level of emotional intimacy isn’t present & have already proven we can walk through darkness together with Gods help.
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Replying to @itsmedevclev
“I don’t think anyone goes into a marriage thinking their spouse will ever cheat on them” Through the magic of insecurity...pic.twitter.com/1SnZga2d55
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Replying to @TheBrometheus
I guess I can’t relate. If I wasn’t confident in my relationship I wouldn’t move it into a marriage covenant. I also have dedicated my life to not worrying about things outside of my control. I have control over who I pick. So I must be careful & confident. Not taking insecurity-
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Replying to @itsmedevclev @TheBrometheus
Openness, communication, and honesty are the greatest warriors against insecurity. Never enter into marriage if these things do not already exist.
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If only someone had written a book to help insecure people who don’t actually believe their insecurities can be fixed or that better intimacy is possible.
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Replying to @TheBrometheus
You should really write onepic.twitter.com/PlvAfmivQ3
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Replying to @hmestedpadre
My cue for a shameless plug... Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity https://www.amazon.com/dp/1099212413/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_dHElDbVZ1AYA3 …
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