If you believe yourself to be fundamentally unlovable, how could you believe faithfully in a God who loves you? Some are able to struggle through and force themselves to believe but most fall away in despair. Read the last section on this article:https://adamlanesmith.com/2019/03/24/are-transactional-relationships-bad/ …
I praise my children for their good deeds because you reward what you want to see repeated.