Think of it this way, guys: Women process their feelings aloud to each other, and sharing their feelings bonds them emotionally to that person. They only refuse to share pain with each other when they deem the other woman not worthy or when they reject her and don’t want to bond.
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By refusing to share you’re signaling to your wife that she’s unworthy of sharing and that you don’t want to bond with her. It makes her feel untrusted and rejected. Long-term relationship female arousal is based on emotional intimacy and relationship stability. Sharing does both
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You are still being a rock when you share. You’re communicating in a way she understands and sending her the correct signals. You’re also signaling to her that sex with you is safe and allowing her to relax into your bond.
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The obvious problem would be if you collapse into sobbing uncontrollably and become hysterical while sharing. She’s not looking for you to be a mess or a child she has to care for. Don’t fall for this false dichotomy of never sharing versus collapsing into hysteria.
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Remember to share with your wife. It signals to her that you trust her, value her input, and plan to keep her. Go build some emotional intimacy.
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