A lot of guys are raised with the feminist ideal that women should be 100% independent in every way and never need the man or want his help in any way. So he tries to woo women by showing them how sensitive he is and how eager to support their independence and politics, etc.
So the heartbreaking part is that he’s spent his whole life being lied to and pursuing women in a way which actually repels them and makes him a subject of scorn, not respect.