We hear you. The system runs multiple scans so the icon may change (especially in the first few hours after upload). You can actually upload as unlisted or private and get an early read on the monetization status. If it’s yellow, you can definitely appeal before publishing live.
In case it helps, make adjustments to the title, description or thumbnail, the system will scan the video again within 24 hours. Our ad-friendly guidelines, best practices resource & Creator Academy course can help: https://goo.gl/A8ViTt