As many of you know, when I was in college, I was a socially backward individual. I never really dated until after I graduated from college, and my dating career vacillated from 1 oneitis to the next. Oneitis is absolutely crippling for a man. And I was no different.
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Oneitis, for those of you that don't know, is the falling for one girl that a man is totally in love with. He thinks of nothing else, doesn't date around, and his whole existence is dependent on this one girl. It is absolute hell.
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So when I would catch feels for a girl, it would quickly turn into oneitis. I would take MONTHS to get up the nerve to ask her out, and when I finally did, she would reject me or would tell me she had a boyfriend. I would be devastated.
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So it would take MORE MONTHS for me to get over my rejection. I wouldn't eat, I would stay in my dorm room for days, skip classes, become a recluse because I was absolutely, positively sure, THIS WOULD BE MY ONE.
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I would build up elaborate fantasies in my head with this girl. My life would literally stop until she said something to me. If she was nice to me, I would endlessly analyze it in my head. If she didn't say anything to me that day, I would slump down and regress.
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My neediness was telegraphed from miles away. I wasn't confident, didn't have a damn clue about game, and would go through this oneitis circle for years. It was miserable.
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So why do girls LJBF? Well, it's because guys don't state their intentions up front. A guy who has to sneak around the fact that he wants to sleep with a women only makes it harder for himself when he tries to be friends with her.
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It's not that men and women can't be friends. It's that men delude themselves into thinking that's what they have to do to get sex. It's the contrary.
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When men aren't sexually attracted to a woman, friendship can be an option. When he thinks he has to be friends to get in her panties, that's the trap.
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Men aren't honest with their intentions, so women friendzone them. This middle ground is best for a woman so she doesn't shit on a guy with a rejection, but keeps him in her orbit for a "just in case".
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But... The "just in case" sex rarely if ever happens. But men will hold on to that hope, even when it's long gone. And that's where I was. Fucking depressing way to live.
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