Stefan MolyneuxVerified account

So what do you suggest instead? Especially for toddlers who can't reason well yet?

Try being an alert parent from the start who redirects before the child does something wrong. But that takes making your child your central focus, time, consistency and energy too many people don’t want to bother with. Easier to spank after the fact. #PreventiveParenting

Thanks...But you didn't answer the question. Let me reword it more clearly; How do you discipline a child when they continue to disobey? Especially if the child is too young to understand logic and reason?

You are the grown up and control the situation by being more persistent in your redirection than they are in their bad choices.

So a two year old will never be blatantly disobedient, even to the point of harming themselves, if you're just patient enough?

Stefan, there's spanking (a quick swat or 2 on the buttocks) then there's Spanking as in repetitive hits, bruising, damage..it's brutal for those that have survived it. Violence fixes nothing. Setting strong boundaries is the answer.

Many generations of kids were spanked/swatted and they, in fact, did not grow up to shoot up their fellow classmates, have identity issues en mas and kill themselves in primary school. Perhaps a swat isn't so terrible?

There’s a difference between physical discipline and abuse. Physical discipline is done in a calm state of mind, with a lesson involved. Abuse is done through anger for little or no reason. Abuse can also be verbal, so the fact that spanking is physical doesn’t make it abuse.

I believe a good counter argument to this anti-spanking movement is the horrible state of present day behavior and disrespect of our youth. In my own lifetime I’ve seen this dramatic shift and it’s been led by this “one size fits all” way of raising children.

Exactly! Every child is completely different and unique, so why not discipline them differently depending on what works for that child? Some might need more gentle discipline and some might need pops on the butt. No judgement from this Mom!