Stefan MolyneuxVerified account

I have a traditional family. Married at 21, still married 33 yrs later with 2 grown kids. I wasn't cut out for parenting. It had nothing to do with love, it had to do with maturity and having had no good role models. Retrospectively, no one benefitted. Least of all my children.

Janet: At any age we can find our way back to love. I strongly recommend George Pranskys Relationship Handbook. The lack of love stems from a simple misunderstanding of where our emotions come from. You are made of love, and can find your way back there! Don't give up hope.

I love my family- they love me. We have a goo relationship. Sorry if I wasn't clear.I just was not a very good mother to my kids when they were younger and I think they suffered due to my lack of maturity and preparation.

I don’t think anyone can be perfectly mature and prepared when it comes to parenting. I’m sure you did the best you could, and obviously it worked out bc you have a good relationship with your fam.

No person thoroughly committed to ‘empiricism’ relies upon Freudian defense mechanisms to explain human psychology.

I haven't heard Stefan posit that women are nothing more than birthing factories. THe case for having a child before a career when young is valid IMHO. But truth, children dont benefit from immature, reluctant or damaged parents.

If everyone waited until they were "mature" enough to have kids the population would have died off ages ago. Every parent comes with a lack of experience, maturity, and/or "readiness" to be a parent. And I'm sure most parents are damaged. It's a growing experience for all.

I only stopped to process my traumas when we found out I was expecting.

It's good that you took the time at all. Many don't. I imagine your kids will be better for it too.

Exactly. Babies are a wake up call. The spiritual growth we undergo as parents makes the hard work worth it. And nothing in this world outlasts a prosperous family. A hundred years from now, our legacy remains, through our children.

Babies should be wakeup calls. Unfortunately many people are heavy sleepers...

True.. some people are just plain selfish. They shouldn’t bother reproducing imo...