Stefan MolyneuxVerified account

Yes mr psychologist, people never change and everything about a person is there for you to read like an open boook right when you meet them. This is a strange hill to die on.

At the beginning is peach and cream, but the person will show eventually the truth... small hints can prevent a mayor disaster. Knowing background also helps BEFORE having a child

When I was young (70s/80s), I was not told to look for a husband who would be a good father. My first husband would have been a terrible father. Thankfully, we had no children. When I talk to young women I suggest they think about what they want for their future children.

Many times childhood trauma will cause people to marry one who treats them similarly to how their family did. This is because they were robbed of their identity & are ruled by traumatized parts that broke off in the psyche. IoPT describes this well (ACE) & provides a way to heal.

“Why would a man with ‘decency and pride’ marry and have kids with a vain, shallow cheater of a woman? She divorced him and took his money, *he* really should have known better and must be held accountable!”

it happens

So that's a yes on that from Stefan. If you did not have the foresight to interpret the hidden intentions of another individual you deserve to be swept under the rug for your mistake. No second chances here.