Scott Madin

fandom antis were _very quickly_ making the leap from "you like a ship in which I think one of the characters is abusive" to "you're an abuser", and I'm seeing some no-kink-at-pridesters go very quickly from "you think seeing leather won't harm kids" to "you're a pedo".

i can tell you, that the family friend that wore leather short shorts and made gift baskets with his husband wasnt the family friend that was a creep or worse. these kids are too inside

this tho. the whole logic of "openly kinky people are uniquely predatory" is ridiculous not because kinky people never violate consent but because people who are habitual boundary violators are *so often* extremely "normal"

(somewhat relatedly, as reylo shippers I knew would put it, abusive relationships typically do not start with the abuser _trying to kill_ the victim before they even know each other. they start with "sweetness".)

as someone who lived through the Edward Cullen is an Abusive Asshole discourse, it is fascinating to me how that discourse lacked the “if you like edward you’re an abuser” kind of rhetoric that’s now pretty common.

It’s so weird this like pure shit. Idk if it’s like Disney or something else

I wonder if one element is sort of that most of society has a better understanding of what abuse dynamics look like in real life than, say, 20 years ago, but there hasn't been a corresponding improvement in media literacy and critical thinking skills, so they've overcorrected

This. I think this is a big thing